I'M BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I went to my my first funeral yesterday, I had been to one memorial service before, so this was quite a little shocking for me, but in the end I did alright.
It was 4hrs there and back and it was worth it.
A little mis-understanding I saw before I left yesterday, she (
my great-aunt; my dad's mother's sister) wasn't in her 100's, she was 80. I have another great-aunt who's 106; but she hasn't died yet.
Saw family who I didn't know who they were...........and then saw my regular extended family, which was nice........'cause I hadn't seen them in like 5 years...............grandparents were the same except for my grandfather, who looked like he gained weight and always had his head down, but still had his eyes open, so he knew we were there.............grandparents didn't come to the funeral, we saw them at their retirement home (
after the funeral). Which is so hard sometimes........'cause you might think that's the last time you'll see them.
The funeral was nice (
try to make this story short and sweet).........we walked in and the casket was open, but we were like 15 ft away, so we only saw her head. But we didn't go up there and see it.
It was then closed for the service which was nice, but the opening (
at the beginning) was kinda of freaky, but that memory will be with me forever.
The pastor (
of the church) spoke, he had only been there for a year, so he didn't know my great-aunt that well, but our family gave him little reminders on what she had done in her earthly life.
then it was time to go outside, the great part about the church was that the burial site was right behind the church, 'cause its the family's church.
Its weird standing near the site, but that memory will be in my mind also forever.
Then it was over, but after it was over, we walked not even an 1/2 mile to my cousin's grave site (
my cousin who was 23 died on June 23 of this year). I didn't even see it at first, because it doesn't have a granite stone in front of it. Just grass (
that looked like sod grass; it was lined up 3 across and 4 down) and a little (
seriously) 4x6 card of his DOB and DOD on it. His bosses from his job will pay for the big granite stone engrave thing. And his brother found a nice poem that will be engraved at the bottom of the stone too.
But it was nice to see, 'cause we didn't come to that one, 'cause we were moving that weekend.
Its hard to believe he's gone, but still hasn't hit me yet. My aunt had someone videotaped the service, maybe I'll ask for a DVD of it. She has pics around the house of him.
She looks well, but inside she's not; one of my other great-aunts said she talks to him everyday.
And even her husband and other son cry all the time and she does too. You'll never get over a loss of someone that close to you. And just when you're somewhere else (
like a store) you think about him. I know I've done that quite often.
Oh and another little (
yea right) thing, I also think a red bottle (
at a restaurant) is always ketchup:
ITS NOT!
I poured what I thought was ketchup on my plate for my chicken strips and French fries, but
IT WASN'T!
IT WAS NC HOT SAUCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Lordy, that's hot! It took me forever to get it out of my system!
Oh that was my lesson in NC hot sauce.
And don't laugh, 'cause it was hot!!!!!!!!!
How do North Carolinians stand it?????
So that was my extended travels yesterday..............but in the end it was worth it.
Btw, I didn't cry at all, I laughed (at the funny parts in the sermon/message), but I never cried. Once in a while, my eyes watered up, but that was it.
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This will be quite a long post, 'cause now I'm going to talk about the spiritual part from my two deaths in my family and my thoughts on them.
While in the car yesterday, I looked through my bible (
which I had brought along) for verses about death. I found one that was very uplifting.
Philippians 1:20-26 (
student's life application bible)
20 For I live in eager expectation and hope that I will never do anything that causes me shame, but that I will always be bold for Christ, as I have been in the past, and that my life will always honor Christ, whether I live or die.
21 For to me, living is for Christ, and dying is even better.
22 Yet if I live, that means fruitful service for Christ. I really don't know which is better.
23 I'm torn between two desires: Sometimes I want to live, and sometimes I long to go and be with Christ. That would be far better for me,
24 but it is better for you that I live.
25 I am convinced of this, so I will continue with you, so that you will grow and experience the joy of your faith.
26 Then when I return to you, you will even more reason to boast about what Christ Jesus has done for me.
And a verse that the pastor said over and over again yesterday:
Revelation 14:13 (
King James Version)
And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them.
My great-aunt has done all she can in her earthly life, she now can rest from her labour and her works will be remembered forever and ever. She will have no more pain or suffering, she is free from pain.
She had always planned family reunions (
in the past), but now she's planning the biggest one of them all. She's seeing her family (
parents and siblings) and husband (
who died before her) and rejoicing with her for ever and ever for eternity.
Also she will see one of her great-nephews who died this past June.
I hope and pray he's in the same place she is. *
pray*
Its just good to know that we're going to go to a better place when we die. The streets will be gold and we will have mansions to live in that He made for us.
It sounds nice, doesn't it? It will look and sound nice when we get there or when Christ comes back, whichever comes first.
One of the goods things that I remembered from the sermon/message, was that one of my family members got a letter from my great aunt and on the back of the envelope, it said:
IN GOD WE TRUST
It was doubled underlined too. (which I can't do on here; but you can visualize what it looks like)
Sarah :)